It’s no secret that men and women are different. But beyond the obvious physical disparities, many of us don’t realise just how much deeper our differences go.
Especially when it comes to relationships.
Men and women are wired differently — on a cognitive, emotional, hormonal and cellular level.
Even though most men have been on a different path than women all along, for some reason we somehow expect those paths to converge when we enter a romantic relationship. For many of us, we naturally assume that while our counterparts might look different, they should think, feel, behave and act like us.
It’s a dangerous way of thinking that causes plenty of frustration, resentment, disappointment and even heartache when we try to, well, relate.
Hello Mars. Hello Venus.
Despite our vast differences, men and women can complement each other in extraordinary ways — as long as we try to understand and embrace these beautiful contradictions, complexities and differences.
Today on The Daily Guru, we are sharing some of the more generalised differences between men and women and how they can affect the dynamics of a relationship.
Especially when it comes to conflict, the female brain is generally wired to think things through or vent externally. Verbally.
Women want to talk about it and tend to push the subject until they feel somewhat satisfied.
Men, on the other hand, often choose to deal with things internally — and avoid processing through conversation. They’ll put up a wall, retreat or pull away. They prefer to figure things out on their own and maybe talk about things later.
Men generally deal with stress by forgetting about or ignoring their feelings. Women de-stress by talking it out.
Women tend to crave deeper, interpersonal relationships than men. Women have an innate curiosity about people, feelings and relationships, whereas men tend to get more caught up in practicalities and logic.
Women want to be understood. Men don’t have the same need for understanding — they instead crave acknowledgement, respect and appreciation.
Women are more expressive with their emotions.
It could be our feminine, more maternal side coming into play here, but women tend find their identity in relationships. They can be drawn to the idea of the relationship, not just the person.
Men more commonly find a sense-of-self in their work, hobbies and other vocations.
A woman’s sexual drive can ebb and flow with her menstrual cycle, whereas a man’s can be more constant. A woman is usually more stimulated by touch, conversation and romance and drawn to personality over looks.
A man is often initially stimulated by sight.
Men and women often differ in the roles they take on in their relationships — whether it’s Mother, Father, breadwinner, homemaker, accountant, chef, disciplinarian or organiser. Given these differences, it is important for both to understand and honour their own unique purpose in the relationship, as well as to acknowledge and respect the unique role of their partner.