Personal Growth


Sep 4

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The Daily Guru Team

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Becoming more self-aware is a powerful way to create positive change in your life. It allows you to connect with your own thoughts and emotions so you can better understand your behaviours and choices. Self-awareness also helps you embrace your vulnerabilities with non-judgement and become more familiar with your authentic self.

Before we dive into the stages of self-awareness, let’s first take a look at what it actually means to be self-aware. 

Self-awareness involves understanding your own internal states, emotions and intuitions and being able to observe and monitor your inner world. People who are self-aware tend to act consciously (rather than passively), maintain good psychological health and have a positive outlook on life.    

However, it can be difficult to cultivate self-awareness simply because of the complexity of our human nature. It takes effort, time and a capacity to be non-judgemental to observe and understand ourselves more. When we’re caught up in actually living our lives (and all the challenges, stressors, reactions, emotions and pressures this can entail) it can be hard to step back and just observe.

For example, if you’re about to jump out of a plane for your first sky-diving adventure, it would be a challenge to disentangle yourself from the fear and adrenalin to observe your thoughts and feelings.

According to psychologists Matthew Killingsworth and Daniel Gilbert, we spend around half of our time acting unconsciously, or on “autopilot.” Our mind wanders and we lose our conscious connection with ourselves and the experience of the present moment.

However, working towards becoming more self-aware is something which can truly help to enrich your life. The more you are able to understand and connect with yourself, the more potential there is to experience benefits such as positivity, better life choices, authenticity, self-compassion and feeling connected with your purpose.




Let’s take a look at the different stages of self-awareness and self-empowerment, as well as some simple exercises to help you cultivate your own self-awareness.

Stage 1: basic self-awareness

In this first stage of self-awareness, you can start to explore your inner world with non-judgement and curiosity. Notice how you’re feeling, what you’re thinking. What you’re feeling challenged by, what your self-talk sounds like and how you react to the world around you. 

Energy is an amazing asset, supplying us with both physical and spiritual drive. It can often shape our lives in extraordinary ways, both positively and negatively. Depending on how we handle the precious power of energy within ourselves, profound outcomes can occur. We have to be aware of striking a personalized balance between differing forms of life force which may collide – if we achieve this state of equilibrium, we can glimpse way more than previously thought possible.

By sharpening our mindful energy management capabilities and taking determined actions to organize vital energy around us, we stand to gain renewed equilibrium wherever necessitated. One powerful yet nuanced message that stands clear throughout – careful use of different sorts of stamina can unlock avenues for true potentiality.

EXERCISE || Try to imagine that you are exploring your inner world as the wisest, calmest and most accepting version of yourself. This will help you be less judgemental and simply observe, rather than criticise.

Stage 2: advanced self-awareness

In this stage of awareness, you’ll discover how to identify some of your inner selves. You may notice your inner child (the echo of the child you once were) reacting instinctively when faced with a threat. You may notice your inner nurturer seeking to soothe yourself, or those around you. Also, you may notice your inner rebel pushing back against the rules. You may notice your inner victim, responsible parent, controller, joker, perfectionist, fixer, or critic.

It is important to come to terms with the fact that there are multiple internal identities inside of you. None of these personas should be labeled as ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’, as they are all a part of who you are. It is possible for you to assess and study each part of yourself, allowing for better understanding and familiarity with this complexity. Keeping any preconceived biases in check makes it easier for you to reflect upon your overlapping personas objectively.

With some time and effort, soon enough you will be even more aware and comfortable with everything that lies within yourself.

EXERCISE || Next time you’re faced with a challenge, try to step back from the situation and observe which of your inner selves come out.

Stage 3: basic self-empowerment

As you move through the first two stages of self-awareness, you may notice yourself fighting against (or ignoring) various inner selves you perceive as “bad”. However, it’s important to start embracing all of yourself, including the inner selves you may not particularly like.

For example, perhaps when you were a child, you were often punished for being a joker. So you started to lock that part of yourself away. As you become more self-empowered, you can start to welcome back the funnier aspects of yourself and express them in healthy ways.

At this stage, you may also become more familiar with the vulnerabilities of your inner child. The more you embrace, converse with and soothe this inner child, the more they will begin to settle down as a result of feeling safe, protected and heard.

EXERCISE || Speak with your inner child at times when you feel overwhelmed, anxious or fearful. Notice what your inner child is feeling. Why they are afraid and what you can do to help them feel safe.

Stage 4: advanced self-empowerment

At this stage, you will start feeling able to create real changes in your life as a result of your self-awareness journey. This may involve creating better relationships through calm communication. Living your life in a way that’s more authentic to you and listening to your intuition. You will also be able to connect with your inner child during challenging times to care and protect that child from responsibility, fear and stress. Your inner selves will likely be much more familiar to you. And eventually, you’ll be able to better monitor and observe them without judgement.

Undoubtedly, you’ll sense a greater connection to values that authentically expresses you as well as increased access to intuitive knowledge. Also worth noting is the ability to form meaningful relationships with other parts of your identity — young, old, and beyond — so that when difficult days come around, you can develop an empathetic understanding instead of letting judgement cloud the situation.

As this recognition continues to be nurtured and refined, those internal essences will feel ever more familiar yet still open safe space for learnings and help escort yourself through compounding growth.


EXERCISE ||  Take some time to meditate each day and check in with your inner selves. This exercise continues to strengthen your self-awareness and cultivates more understanding of yourself. Especially as your life continues to change and evolve.

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I'm Rebecca Sparks - Founder of The Daily Guru. I'm also a Self Development Coach,
a Speaker and a Podcaster. 

What drives me most in life is a fascination & curiosity with how we can make the most of our short time here on this planet.  How do we make our lives feel meaningful? How can we make life feel fulfilling?  And how can we turn these elements into a lifestyle? 

My mission is to help women explore these topics and to design a life that taps into all of their essentials.

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