26 . 10 . 2020

Your Free Spirit Animal ScreenSaverS!
MONTHLY SELF-Coaching worksheets
Downloadable Recipe Cards by Jess Sepel
Now Trending:
I'm Rebecca!

Welcome to DG! We are a Coaching Hub for Women!  Over the past 7 years we've created a huge library of Articles, Guides, Coaching Resources and Courses, to help women grow & thrive in their own life.  We hope you enjoy exploring the site x


Listen to our #1 Confidence Podcast

Tune in

Explore our latest episodes of The 'C' Bomb

Written By

Rebecca Sparks

From an early age, you had your life mapped out.

The work you would do, the house you would own, the one you would love, the places you would go and the person you would be.

How did that go for you?

Have you lived up to the expectations of your younger self or are you completely off-track?

Many of us achieve more than we ever set out to — and that’s a wonderful thing. But if you haven’t ticked all boxes you had planned to by now, know that you’re not alone.

 Plenty of us are left feeling dismayed or disappointed by our lack of progress towards our life goals.

As it turns out, even the best-laid plans go awry and we don’t end up with the white picket fence or the so-called ‘life of our dreams’.

But, why? Why do we find ourselves headed down a different path? Why aren’t we content with where we’re at, right now?



Of course there are plenty of unique life events and circumstances that can shape or alter our direction — but here are some common reasons why you might not be where you wanted be (served up with a little food for thought on the side).



You looked outside of yourself for guidance

Too often, our plans are made up of someone else’s ideas or expectations of who we should be, where we should go or what we should do.

In other words, we ignore our inner voice. We look outside of ourselves for a vision of what our life is supposed to look like — and let that shape our decisions and ultimately, our path. And unsurprisingly, when we reach ‘that place’, it feels rather icky.

Doing what is expected of you is a recipe for regret. Instead, consider your own needs and values and do whatever it takes to meet them. Ask yourself:

“What feels right for me?”

“What do I want for myself?”



You haven’t arrived yet

 Just because we aren’t where we want to be right now, doesn’t mean we won’t get there in the end. Some things take a little longer than expected — life has twists and turns, ups and downs and plenty of bottlenecks and stop signs.

As the saying goes, the man on the mountain didn’t fall there — so keep taking inspired action steps toward your vision or goal.

Just keep climbing.



Sometimes the best plan is to have no plan at all

Holding a vice-like grip on the future and what it needs to look like can prevent you from noticing, embracing — and appreciating — the present.

Joseph Campbell once said, “We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”

And he was right.

When you let go of how you think life should be, you open yourself up to what’s right here, right now — and how it is really meant to be.




You haven’t taken charge

We could say it’s because luck wasn’t on our side or the planets weren’t aligned. Because we didn’t deserve it, it wasn’t our destiny or because it was all just too hard.

But chances are, the reason our life hasn’t turned out how we hoped is we didn’t take the reins. We sat back and left it to chance/the universe/someone else.

When it comes to dishing up a life lesson on this issue, we’re going to hand the microphone over to Oprah:

You are responsible for your life,” she says.

“And if you’re sitting around waiting on somebody to save you, to fix you, to even help you, you are wasting your time. Because only you have the power to take responsibility to move your life forward. What matters is now. This moment and your willingness to see this moment for what it is. Accept it, forgive the past, take responsibility and move forward.

“I came to realise that all the time I was praying to God, asking for God to do something, God was waiting on me.”



Has your life headed in the direction you hoped? Are you okay with it? Share with us in the comments below!


Share this:
Journal Prompts

A hugely valuable personal growth tool is the use of Journal Prompts. Bringing awareness to our most common thoughts and consciously choosing to reprioritize, refocus, and redirect these thoughts, can have the most profound impact on our life and emotional wellbeing – especially during these challenging times of late. However, at times, journalling can feel […]

50 Journal Prompts For Self-Discovery


read more

I’m not much of a fan of exercising. In fact, I quite often hate it. What I do love however, is exercising my vagina — or to be more specific — my pelvic floor muscles. Why? Because it allows me to have epic sex and incredible orgasms. Exercising your pelvic floor muscles with a simple […]

The Best Sexercise You Can Do


read more

We all experience fear and anxiety at times. It’s a completely natural and helpful human emotion that helps us respond to danger — an automatic alarm that goes off in a challenging situation where we feel threatened, pressured or stressed. We feel it when we’re about to jump on a roller coaster. When we’re gearing […]

Behaviours That Contribute To Anxiety


read more

ARE YOU IN A MAZE? Are you feeling like you’re at a stage in your life where you’re not where you thought you’d be? Maybe you’re reflecting on others thinking they seem to have it all and you’re not even close?? Or maybe you’re just feeling a little feeling lost? You might have a million things […]

Feeling lost? How to find your way out!


read more

Have you ever considered how the ways you treat yourself and others are surprisingly similar? As far back as the Bible, it has been espoused that we should treat others as we would want to be treated. But this, perhaps, looks only at the inter-relationship between people. What about the intra — the importance of […]

What our Behaviour Really Means!


read more

  CARRY ON FLOURISHING   It’s been a bit of a whirlwind adventure with our “flourish” series and we hope you’ve loved it as much as we have!   So far, we’ve covered: How to flourish at home How to boost your energy and motivation Relationship rehab How to prepare for meaningful action How to […]



read more

New Year Resolutions… We have made it to 2021! Well done. Last year was anything but easy. 2020 presented us all with challenges, abrupt change, and transitions, amongst many other things, and you made it through. As you reflect on the last year, there are things you may want to leave behind, while there may […]

Embracing Rhythms Over Resolutions

Personal Growth

read more
Design your day

“Wonderful. Productive. Smooth. Successful.” This is how we want to be able to respond when someone asks us, “How was your day?” With everything on our plate, those words often seem unrealistic.  But despite our waking hours being filled with a rush of activity that has the potential to send us into a state of […]

How To Design Your Day

Personal Growth

read more

10 years from now, where will you be? Have a clue? Not quite sure at all? That’s ok. Like a fortune-teller with her crystal ball in hand, you too can look into your future now and see the life you are manifesting. Here’s how you can quite simply predict where you will be in 10 […]

Where Will You Be 10 Years From Now?

Personal Growth

read more

  When life gets busy or you find that one area of your life is demanding a lot of your time and energy, it’s easy to find yourself out of balance and not paying enough attention to what’s most important in your life. While you need to have drive and direction, too much can create […]

Finding Balance In Our Busy Lives

Personal Growth

read more

Your head strongly insists on taking the job. Running the marathon. Leaving the relationship. But your heart… well, your vehemently disagrees. Have you been tied up in the limbo of your head and heart? Paralysed by indecision because you don’t know what’s right?     The heart whispers but when it does, the message is […]


Personal Growth

read more

We all get lost from time to time. We all forget who we really are when life throws a spanner (or three) into the works. Faced with choices to start and end relationships, to travel the world, to follow the hunch or to leave it, to start a family or maybe to close your business […]


Personal Growth

read more

I'm Rebecca Sparks
Founder of The Daily Guru, Confidence & Life Transition Coach, Speaker, Podcaster, Educator, Adventurer & Goal-Getter!

My mission is to help women believe and invest in themselves and  to help them to carve out their own exciting and fortuitous path in life.

more about me

Hey there!

oh la la!

"It's like DG is reading my mind! Every time I get an email from them, its exactly what I needed to hear."
- Jennifer West

Join the gang!

We've built a HUGE library of Growth & Wellbeing Resources for women just like you.  And we save all the best bits for our PenPals
 (AKA the Newsletter crew!)

So save yourself from unbearable FOMO and sign up below 



Get Our Free Guide to Kicking Ass on Social

Taiyaki occupy farm-to-table swag fashion axe four loko. Church-key palo santo selvage helvetica iceland tumblr.




"Margi's guide was kick-ass indeed and quite literally changed how I show up on social." - Jen Olmstead

oh la la!



follow along 
on Instagram:



@TheDailyGUru >

© MArgarita Coaching 2020  |  Design by Tonic  |  Photos by social squares & Unsplash