If you’ve ever practiced the art of mindfulness — of being here now— you would know first-hand the personal benefits of this powerful exercise.
It brings awareness to what you’re experiencing in any given moment and gives you space to choose how you act in your daily life.
It amplifies your sense of inner peace.
In a nutshell, the mental state of mindfulness can be reached by focusing your awareness on the present moment while gently observing, acknowledging and accepting your feelings, thoughts and sensations.
Common techniques for achieving mindfulness include breathing, pausing, meditating and blocking out distractions.
It’s about hearing, seeing, smelling, touching and feeling — wholly and fully.
Imagine, then, extending this same powerful awareness beyond the relationship you have with yourself, to the one you have with others — particularly your lover. Imagine being physically, emotionally, and mentally engaged in your relationship.
How would you do it?
You could stop what you’re doing and give your undivided attention to what your partner has to say.
You could look into their eyes and really feel the love you have for them.
You could regularly schedule in time to unplug and be still together — without distraction.
However you choose to do it, enhancing your ability to be present to each other will lead to better outcomes in your love life — in both the good and bad times.
Here are just some of the long-term benefits of being mindful and present in a relationship:
Between the demands of your daily lives and your relationship needs.
Meaningful conversation and connection. The ability to remember and honour what it was that brought you together in the first place.
Mindfulness increases your awareness of your partner’s feelings and in turn empowers you to cultivate empathy and compassion. It makes your lover feel heard, seen and valued and helps you to accept them for who they are and where they are at.
Mindfulness teaches you to turn down the volume on stress and cultivate a calmer reaction to what’s going on around you and how you manage it. Together.
This one’s a biggie, because disagreements and arguments are one of the biggest triggers in the breakdown of a relationship.
If you can commit to pausing before a conversation gets heated or breathing when feeling triggered, you increase your chances of avoiding unnecessary arguments, saying something you regret and lashing out at the person you cherish most.
Practicing mindfulness allows you to sense anger, irritability and annoyance and then decide how to respond with love.
Do you have anything to add to the list? Where has practicing mindfulness or being present helped to improve your relationship with your partner? Tell us in the comments below!