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HOW TO MAKE ‘NO’ A COMPLETE SENTENCE – 6 helpful tips you should know

Sep 1

Written By

Katie Dean

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You Need to Make No a Complete Sentence.

Why? Let’s start here. With every solitary scroll or innocent meandering through your Social Media feeds, the opportunity for overwhelm is rife. There’s someone advising you to do something, attend ‘this’ or follow ‘that’ strategy to make 6 figures in 6 minutes whilst promising you inner fulfillment and a set of meditation tracks.



Which way do you go? What do you do? 

When faced with too many options paralysis by analysis is often the outcome. If you find yourself ‘should-ing’ all over yourself, your business and creating all sorts of inner turmoil in the process, let’s clean that mess up right now.

Most choices where we feel we ‘should’ be doing something come from a fearful place. A fear of not being enough, of missing out, of getting it wrong – and today we are saying ‘enough’!

HOW TO MAKE ‘NO’ A COMPLETE SENTENCE – 6 helpful tips you should know


#1 I should be posting every day on Social Media to stay relevant.

‘Yeah, nah’ on this one.

While it’s important to create and maintain a presence on Social Media, it’s far more important to create and share content that’s aligned with your business, your brand, your values and the way you want to feel.

If you’re not posting for a purpose, as in to add value for your community, sharing something exciting about your biz or because it makes you happy – PASS.

#2 I should get ‘this many’ followers before I take the next step.

Pfffffft – NO.

The number of followers you acquire does not equate to the number of customers or clients you will have. Create the community you yearn for by sharing your journey and bringing the right people into your world along the way.

A client and a community member who’s connected is far more important than quantity.

#3 I should quit my job right away and go all in.

Not necessarily.

While I’m all for a good plunge, there’s a whole lot to say for creating a totally rad side hustle. Enjoy your business. Create the foundation for it to grow and don’t put the pressure on it to earn you money right away. Let your day gig be the role that affords you the time to focus on your passion project and nurture you both until you’re ready to take the plunge and go all in.

#4 I should do it ‘this way’ because that’s what everyone else is doing/has done.

Woah, woah, woah, woah! NO.

Let’s back the bus right up. You are not like everyone else and that my friend is your super power. Just because someone hands you a map, doesn’t mean you need to follow it because they ended up somewhere great.

Go rouge.

Create your own path, learn what you need to and enjoy the view from the top of the mountain even more because you got there yourself.

#5 I should wait until the time is perfect, the moon is in the correct phase and I pull an abundance card.

As much as I love seeking guidance from the energy around me it comes with some soulful self-enquiry and a little true talk.

Am I actually stalling because I’m not believing that I’m worthy or capable? Or am I waiting for someone or something to validate me or give me permission?

What I’ve learnt is with the above in mind, there is no perfect time, just moments we decide to make count. I can’t stress this enough. This life, it’s not a drill. There is no do-over. If you want it, create it. Only you will know when to move forward.

Eventually we all run out of tomorrows so more than ever it matters what you do today.

#6 I should attend that event even though ‘It doesn’t feel right/I’m exhausted/I don’t vibe with them/ I’d rather be working on my own business etc.’

If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no.

Anything that pulls you out of alignment truly isn’t worth it. We are only ever busy with what we’ve said yes to and I mean it when I say that ‘No’ is a complete sentence. Stay in your flow sweet potato. Stay in your flow.

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I'm Rebecca Sparks - Founder of The Daily Guru. I'm also a Self Development Coach,
a Speaker and a Podcaster. 

What drives me most in life is a fascination & curiosity with how we can make the most of our short time here on this planet.  How do we make our lives feel meaningful? How can we make life feel fulfilling?  And how can we turn these elements into a lifestyle? 

My mission is to help women explore these topics and to design a life that taps into all of their essentials.

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