The quality of our relationships contributes enormously to our overall wellbeing. If any of those relationships become unhealthy, with continual negativity being directed at one another, this can start bleeding out and impacting on other areas of your life. Studies show that if you have at least one long-term friendship plus a relationship network of five or more, you are more likely to describe yourself as ‘a happy person’ compared to those that don’t have such relationships in their lives.
Having a special person to greet you when you come home, or that is always happy to see you when you catch up (and vice versa) is a vital contribution to your overall happiness. So if you feel like some relationships in your life aren’t where they need to be and are therefore having a negative impact on your emotional wellbeing, then it’s time for some relationship rehab!
Follow our three key steps to flourishing in your relationships:
Spring Clean and Declutter
It’s important to observe how our social relationships make us feel. In an ideal world, those closest to you will lift you up. Make you feel confident and happy and most importantly, never judge you. However, we do all go through tough times and this can impact friends’ behaviour and emotions. We are not in the school of thinking that says avoid anyone that is negative or drags you down. As everyone has their bad days, and true friendship does not involve dropping people like sacks of potatoes when things get tough. However, it’s important to take note if a certain friend or friendship group are consistently negative and letting you down. If you start to notice a pattern like this, then it may be time to reassess what it is this relationship is offering you. You deserve to have friends that will love and support you no matter what. But is this your reality? If it isn’t, perhaps it’s time for some change.
List your Happy Friends
Make a list of all your great friends, colleagues and family members that make you feel happy on a regular basis. When you are adding people to your list, ask yourself why they make you happy. You now have a wonderful list of resources so that should your emotional wellbeing dip slightly, you know who to go to! And this will also have been a wonderful reminder of who you are grateful to have in your life!
Find Time For Those That Matter
Knowing who is important to you and why is a wonderful thing. But it is no good if your friends do not realise how important they are. We are all busy people and we find time for all the things we see as ‘musts’ in our life. So if you aren’t finding enough time for your friends, then maybe you need to make it a ‘must’. With relationships having such a huge impact on our emotional wellbeing. It’s important we find time for them – so what do you currently have on your ‘must’ to-do list that can be replaced with seeing a friend?